When I came across this article the headline is what really caught my attention, “Single Bridezillas”. After all, “Bridezillas” are typically engaged and no longer categorized as single. But as the story reveals, this is about a growing number of women who apparently start planning their nuptials before they even have a fiancé. Talk about putting the cart before the horse. Sure, a lot of women dream of the day when they’ll glide down the aisle, all eyes on them as they unite with their betrothed and promise to love each other through thick and thin. And it’s not unusual to plan out certain elements of your wedding like themes, colors, hairstyles, ideal venues, etc. But doesn’t it seem a little odd and maybe a bit detrimental to start elaborate planning such as buying ring settings, creating invitations and selecting honeymoon destinations when you’re not even engaged? Shouldn’t the husband-to-be have some say in all this? After all, it’s his day too. I can even understand buying a wedding dress that is “The One” and squirreling it for your special day, because you may never come across a gown like that again. But what if that special day never comes and all you have is a yellowing reminder hanging in your closet of a dream that was never fulfilled? How healthy is that? I’m all for having dreams and visualizing them into reality. But this trend seems like it could be a big letdown to plan for something that gets revamped by your partner or possibly not even happen at all. What is most troublesome to me about this article is that the fiancé/husband/groom/partner-for-life seems to be an afterthought to the wedding itself. Maybe that’s why U.S. marriages are in decline, because the emphasis is being placed on the wrong thing. The focus shouldn’t be on one day but rather one person - the man you intend to share your life with. Put your time and energy into making sure you commit to someone who is worthy of you, treats you right, is respectful , shares the same morals, is kind, faithful, funny, hardworking, etc. and is capable of committing to you as well. Planning a wedding ceremony without a groom is like mixing up cake batter without an oven. You’ll have a bunch of sweet stuff to look at but won’t be able to savor it unless it’s fully baked. A wedding is not a marriage. A wedding is an event that can last a few hours, reception included, a marriage is a union that if done right, lasts the rest of your life. What do you think about this story? Have you been planning for your wedding sans groom or know someone who has? Please share how it resonated with you.
When I came across this article the headline is what really caught my attention, “Single Bridezillas”. After all, “Bridezillas” are typically engaged and no longer categorized as single. But as the story reveals, this is about a growing number of women who apparently start planning their nuptials before they even have a fiancé. Talk about putting the cart before the horse. Sure, a lot of women dream of the day when they’ll glide down the aisle, all eyes on them as they unite with their betrothed and promise to love each other through thick and thin. And it’s not unusual to plan out certain elements of your wedding like themes, colors, hairstyles, ideal venues, etc. But doesn’t it seem a little odd and maybe a bit detrimental to start elaborate planning such as buying ring settings, creating invitations and selecting honeymoon destinations when you’re not even engaged? Shouldn’t the husband-to-be have some say in all this? After all, it’s his day too.
I can even understand buying a wedding dress that is “The One” and squirreling it for your special day, because you may never come across a gown like that again. But what if that special day never comes and all you have is a yellowing reminder hanging in your closet of a dream that was never fulfilled? How healthy is that? I’m all for having dreams and visualizing them into reality. But this trend seems like it could be a big letdown to plan for something that gets revamped by your partner or possibly not even happen at all. What is most troublesome to me about this article is that the fiancé/husband/groom/partner-for-life seems to be an afterthought to the wedding itself. Maybe that’s why U.S. marriages are in decline, because the emphasis is being placed on the wrong thing. The focus shouldn’t be on one day but rather one person - the man you intend to share your life with. Put your time and energy into making sure you commit to someone who is worthy of you, treats you right, is respectful , shares the same morals, is kind, faithful, funny, hardworking, etc. and is capable of committing to you as well. Planning a wedding ceremony without a groom is like mixing up cake batter without an oven. You’ll have a bunch of sweet stuff to look at but won’t be able to savor it unless it’s fully baked. A wedding is not a marriage. A wedding is an event that can last a few hours, reception included, a marriage is a union that if done right, lasts the rest of your life. What do you think about this story? Have you been planning for your wedding sans groom or know someone who has? Please share how it resonated with you.
I can even understand buying a wedding dress that is “The One” and squirreling it for your special day, because you may never come across a gown like that again. But what if that special day never comes and all you have is a yellowing reminder hanging in your closet of a dream that was never fulfilled? How healthy is that? I’m all for having dreams and visualizing them into reality. But this trend seems like it could be a big letdown to plan for something that gets revamped by your partner or possibly not even happen at all.
What is most troublesome to me about this article is that the fiancé/husband/groom/partner-for-life seems to be an afterthought to the wedding itself. Maybe that’s why U.S. marriages are in decline, because the emphasis is being placed on the wrong thing. The focus shouldn’t be on one day but rather one person - the man you intend to share your life with. Put your time and energy into making sure you commit to someone who is worthy of you, treats you right, is respectful , shares the same morals, is kind, faithful, funny, hardworking, etc. and is capable of committing to you as well. Planning a wedding ceremony without a groom is like mixing up cake batter without an oven. You’ll have a bunch of sweet stuff to look at but won’t be able to savor it unless it’s fully baked. A wedding is not a marriage. A wedding is an event that can last a few hours, reception included, a marriage is a union that if done right, lasts the rest of your life.
What do you think about this story? Have you been planning for your wedding sans groom or know someone who has? Please share how it resonated with you.
I blame Pinterest. It's way too easy to get carried away on there!