While the outbursts of Joe Wilson, Kanye West and Serena Williams are shocking on the surface--especially if you watched them live as they occurred--I can't say I'm completely surprised by them. 

First of all, we live in a time when self expression has reached new levels of acceptance.  People can say anything they want about anyone or anything on the web completely uncensored and unfounded.  People can broadcast their views in other forums as far ranging as bumper stickers to t-shirts to head shaving.  And no one can stop them without being accused of hindering their first amendment rights.  Pay no mind that individuals also have a right not to be subjected to content they find offensive without their consent.  Isn't that what the Ninth Amendment was trying to say, "The enumeration in the Constitution, of certain rights, shall not be construed to deny or disparage others retained by the people"? 

Secondly, self restraint is becoming more and more rare.  People believe they can do whatever feels right to them at any moment with no thought to its impact on those around them.  At work we joke about people "not using their filter" in conversation or action.  They give absolutely no thought to the appropriateness of the response.  And they feel no remorse after the fact.

Finally, people are frustrated and frightened by the uncertainties of the marketplace.  Will they keep their job or find one quickly if they lose it?  Will they have the means to send their kids to college?  Is there hope they can retire before their health fails?  Will they be able to afford healthcare?  So many questions.  So few answers.  The result is a sense of insecurity that often manifests itself in anger.

Regardless of all these reasons, or perhaps in spite of them, we simply have to show our kids (and ourselves) that we can be respectful and resilient no matter what the circumstance.  Fortunately, while Joe, Kanye and Serena didn't model good behavior with their outbursts, they did take responsibility for their actions and offer apologies.  It doesn't excuse their behavior, but it at least puts it in proper perspective.

Have you noticed more outbursts in your circle of friends, family, co-workers?  Do you think it is the result of pent up anger or a disregard for others?